no lies

I have found that people lie for one main reason: to protect themselves. When they say they lie because they don’t want to hurt others–well, they’re lying to themselves. That’s a cop out. They do not want to face the consequences of their lie–the truth they are trying to protect. They do not want to take responsibility for the hurt they will see manifested in another human being. So, they take the easy way out and compound this hurt by weaving more lies. What they fail to see is that the truth literally sets everyone free. It sounds like such a cliché but it’s true. The truth hurts but it is a well-lit path towards healing. A lie is a muddy path to nowhere.

Lies always wound. They damage people because the very essence of man is aligned with Truth, whether we are aware of it or not. Any lie is an act of violence towards another person’s soul and spirit. Everyone knows when a lie is in the air. We sense it. But if someone we trust and love is lying to our face, our defenses kick in and we start to think we are wrong, because how could they knowingly envelop us in darkness? How could anyone consciously and willfully take the light away from us? This very process of unwarranted self-doubt is but one example of how lies wound others. There are many more.

Lies hurt deeply. They are like sharp winds that blow out the one bright flame so that everyone is left in total darkness–all without a choice about how to take the next step forward. How can anybody make an informed choice when they do not have facts to work with? Already, whatever they decide to do will be wrong or inadequate, simply because they jumped off the wrong premise.

Watching a seasoned liar is a scary thing. It makes me want to run away. They get to the point of being so good at it they actually believe what they’re saying. They lie to themselves and believe every word they say. But if your lie-radar is good you’ll still see it anyway: the too-elaborate stories, each one weaving too seamlessly into the next, the eyes that are shifting too fast because they’re concocting the next lie and checking to see if you’re onto them, all at the same time!

Lies bury you deeper and deeper in muck. You lie, you have to lie again and again to protect the whole stream of lies you’ve already told. It is just weight upon toxic weight that you pour on yourself and release into the world. I think it is plain cruel to lie or deceive anyone, especially those you love. Unfortunately, these are the people we feel we need to lie to the most, out of the totally false excuse of protecting them from the truth. What a distorted way to love!

Lies have hurt me so may times in the past so it is so refreshing to know that I am not being lied to this time. that there are no secrets between us. that we are on the same page about that promise of being honest and not having secrets. that we can just talk about anything and everything without fear of being judged. that we can just be our real true selves. i pray that we keep that promise always. that we will have each other always.