one summer weekend

Summer 2009. I needed a new set of May 1 memories so off I went to Pagudpud with jaq and khriz and eeva and Toots and his friends for a much needed R and R. We then had a little tour of Ilocos before going back to Tuguegarao to catch our bus back home.
Travel time to Pagudpud was 6 hours because we had some pit stops and I was quite hungry by the time we got to the resort but the place was beautiful so a little hunger was okay with me =)
When we got to the place, we made a beeline for the “kusina” and started preparing our late lunch. Thanks to toots’ friends who helped cook our menu of inasal na manok, piniritong manok and the girls’ masterpiece: stuffed tilapia. Yum!
So we scarfed down everything and looked around and had moments (postcard-perfect moments, perhaps?) and took pictures. Then dinnertime came. After dinner, we had a little game called ping-pong-pang along with some alcohol (hahah…sorry EJboy, I really don’t like beer) and that’s when we really got to know each other in our little group. Then some chikahan followed suit. That’s when I found my new memories. Hahaha.
And what did we talk about? The most obvious of course: our love lives. We found out we’re mostly broken up with our (in)significant others or about to break up. And what’s funny was that our stories were very similar.
The next day, we had a hearty breakfast and went on a mini-tour of Ilocos. We went to another beach which was somewhat like boracay, only less commercialized. We also visited the windmills (that power Ilocos..so awesome…and huge!) and the Bojeador lighthouse (we didn’t see some ghosts but someone saw someone’s underpants…khriz? Hehehe). Of course, we had to taste the local delicacies: empanada and bibingka. The empanada was really different from others I’ve tasted before and the bibingka was like that of estancia’s, only more chewy. Suffice it to say that we were fuuuuuull when we ended our Ilocos escapade.
On the way back home, I thought about what we talked about that night (and morning and while going back to Tugue) and I remember a similar conversation I had with some friends a few months back.
Breaking up is never easy. Breaking up properly is a skill some people just don’t have. And unfortunately, I ended up with two of these no-breakup-skills dudes.
Anyway, some points my friends and I agree on when it comes to breakups are as follows:
1. breakups should always be done in the flesh
- never via email, chat (ehem), phone, or text message (ouch); and never ever
have your friend break up for you (agi!!!)
2. never breakup by scheming the other party into doing it for you
- do not provoke the other party into breaking up with you; that’s being a coward
3. do not breakup on or a few days before/after a milestone
- not on your birthday or her birthday; not on Christmas, New Year or
Valentine’s day (ouch liwat ah!)…heartless pig!
4. breakups should be clear
- “things are not going well” is not a sentence that means “we’re breaking up”;
do not assume that the other party gets your “message”; do not think that by
avoiding the other party, s/he will get the message that you’re breaking up;
be clear; own up to your decision
5. never break up by cheating
- that’s just plain nasty! And that karma thing? That’s also the golden rule.
You might end up in deeper shit and your ex will get the last laugh…
bwahahahahaha!!!!
So guys and girls…breaking up is hard to do. It is one of the most painful things to go through, but as they say, what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. Shit happens. And there will always be reasons why these shitty things happen. Meanwhile, it’s up to you to help yourself get over the breakup. I can’t do that for you. Our friends or your family can’t do that for you either. Decide that “enough’s enough”. Decide to move on and be happy.
Breakups happen because someone better is meant for us, and in due time, we’ll meet that someone.
For the meantime, we’ll always have the movies for our kilig fill. Tama ba, nancy jane? Heheheh =)

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OMC! Here’s to a long-lasting friendship with you guys and girls. Tapos na ang tugue-ilocos high five. Boracay high five up next? Wheeee! =) Halong gid pirme toots, eeva, ej, kimmybear, doni, beegee, neju + cake! Palangga kamo namon! Powerhuuuuuuuuuuug =)