i've been in two shitty relationships before and their aftermath was terrible but... i still hope for love. i still want to have that someone who'll be my partner (in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer...hehehe), my bestfriend, my lover. mine.
after hearing your story, this is what i can tell you:
Relationships are scary. It's like playing a game-- a gamble. I remember the quote from the movie If Only by Jennifer Love Hewitt, "They say there's always someone in a relationship who loves more." It's true. To fall in love is to become vulnerable. You take your heart out from your chest, hand it to someone, and let them take care of it. Blind trust. That's what falling in love is.
You have to fully trust someone that they won't turn around and stab your heart.Love is about risk. Love is so magical & wonderful, but it is also scary & risky & stomach churning. The rewards are enormous -- when it's good, it's like a kingdom full of treasures --but there are dangers, too. Like... what if you aren't accepted when you tell the truth about who you are & what you want? What if you're as real as you can be & you get rejected? What if you get cheated on? What if you find out you're not the only wo/man in his/her life? All of these things can happen & more. Which is why love, the real stuff, not the silly, I'm here-until-someone-better-comes-along, "I-love-you" "Oh-yeah-I-love-you-too" stuff, requires bravery & courage & strength. People who really love, who really put their hearts out there & take the chance, should be awarded medals, because it's hard. EVERYONE gets hurt in love. Everyone. You might not necessarily get dumped or cheated on, but sometimes things don't go how you wish they would, & that hurts. So much. When you make an emotional investment in someone & they don't return it? Yeah, that sucks big time. It makes you sad & angry & want to swear off lovers forever. But you have to pull yourself up & move onwards, because if you don't risk anything, you risk even more.
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Your post is very true and good to read :). Thank you.
Love is very hard and hurts a lot indeed. And once you've invested all of yourself into something that just breaks down due to a lack of effort on your partner's side, you just want to give up on the word entirely because you've just lost all you ever wanted and the only place you saw your life going and don't want to have to build it all back up again. And definitely not with someone else.
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